Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself. — Leo Tolstoy
Life is full of changes, some good, some bad, but always changes. How we adjust and adapt to the changes is what really defines us. Sometimes however others force change upon us, changes which are indeed bad for us but good for them.
Obamacare is such a change. While it is good for some it is horrible for most but still this change is being pushed down our throat and with it the effects of unintended consequences.
Another change which is being forced upon Americans is placing women in direct combat situations. Having served 20 years in the military I can attest this is not a good idea in every aspect of the word. Biology alone is a factor which will undermine the fighting capabilities of the military yet the powers that be refuse to accept this. The results of this experiment are yet to be determined but they will not be good.
I know all the arguments, other countries have their women on the front lines but the negativity of such an arrangement is never discussed because reality is something the liberal left cannot accept. Hence only the perception is real but perception is false and dangerous.
Two years ago I came to the conclusion that my life had to change and it had to change drastically. I had to move my way of thinking into something far more advantageous. In short I had to get out of the rut I was living in and remove myself from my comfort zone. A task not easy for me, in fact a task which requires constant work and re-evaluation on a daily basis.
When I developed this website I began a journey which has been hard and difficult at times, most times. I am constantly working to improve myself and make our life better. Yet 60 plus years of one-way thinking is difficult to break even if all the conditions are perfect.
Now I have to add in the political factor of higher taxes, a lower paycheck, government rules and regulations to the mix. Then I have the issues of the house, my home, falling apart. It seems everything is breaking at the same time and the funds are just not there to make the necessary repairs. It seems life is against me, in every way you can think of.
And that is great!
Why? Because I feel, deep inside of me that the tide of my life is turning towards great things. I don’t know why I feel this way but I do. I look at all the negativity around me and cannot help feeling optimistic. My life is changing for the better despite government negativity and personal disasters.
We allow ourselves to define what we cannot do. We live in a negative environment of our own making because we believe we are not worthy of a great life. We hear how the rich and successful are evil and mean and this concept is enforced by the mainstream media. We are being conditioned, and have been for decades to accept mediocrity as the normal way of life. Nothing could be further from the truth.
Despite the lies of the so called “experts” we are capable, each of us, of greatness. The only limitation is the one we place upon ourselves. We believe we cannot do something because someone told us we cannot do it. It could be our spouse, a friend, a relative, or a government official. The reality is we are capable of doing far more yet we hold ourselves back and allow fear to define us.
We believe what others tell us, that we are worthless and incapable of doing something great. For years, from my youth, I lived under that concept, being worthless and lazy. The sad part was I believed it hence I did nothing really worthwhile with my life. Yet as I mentioned, two years ago that belief, that concept I had of me changed. And I changed it. No one really helped me and I sometimes feel all alone in this battle of self-improvement.
When no one believes in you, when your family constantly derides you, when you accept their words as true then you are lost. But when you believe in yourself, when you accept that you are worthwhile and quit listening to others then you begin to heal yourself. You begin to approach your true potential.
It is not easy and it does take time. For me these two years have been a living hell having to listen to the negativity but knowing that I am better than what others tell me. It has been a learning experience filled with emotional pain and suffering. My past mistakes still haunt me but I know deep in my heart and soul I am on the verge of a drastic life-changing improvement.
These words are not easy for me to write yet they flow smoothly from my fingertips to the page. I accept all the mistakes I have made and all the pain I have caused my family and loved ones. I am still making a lot of mistakes but I am changing for the better and I am becoming better each and every day. Yes my life is changing and no one sees it – yet. But they will at the appropriate time. For now I stay quiet, I work on myself, I believe in myself, and I motivate myself to do better.
If you find yourself in a similar situation you have a choice to make – you can continue to live in the rut your dug for yourself or you can change for the better. No one can prevent you from improving yourself and yet they, whoever they are, will try and tell you how to live.
This is America and it is still the land of miracles and greatness. There is no reason for you, or me, to live below our capabilities. I encourage you to look at yourself, really examine who you are and what you are capable of and then decide to either change or stay the same.
I came to the conclusion I needed to change myself, not only because I had to but because I wanted to. And it is a decision I have never regretted.
Think about it.
G.
